Time for sleep
by Ryan Sorensen
If you don’t want to fight
your two year old for space in your own bed, you must start
early in establishing good bedtime habits. Good bedtime
habits will allow your child the comfort that he or she needs
to fall asleep in their own room by themselves. Good bedtime
habits for your child are the gift that keeps giving
because it pays off with better sleep and
more comfort for you as parents.
First time parents always have anxieties about putting
their child to bed in their own bedroom for the first time.
Mothers may be anxious about their baby growing up so quickly
and leaving the comfort of the bassinette that is right next to
the bed. Both parents may feel uneasy about the baby being
alone in a big dark room. The biggest cause of anxiety may just
be the unknown amount of time it will take before your child
goes to bed without crying hysterically before falling asleep.
Hopefully some advice from a parent that has been through this
stage already can help ease the anxiousness.
Bedtime is no different than anything else in a child’s life.
Children love habits and they need a comfort level with
something before they will accept it. Schedules are very
important! Try to put your child to bed at the same time each
night, preferably before they are overtired and cranky.
Overtired children aren’t themselves and they are less apt to
learn if they are crying or throwing a tantrum.
After scheduling a bedtime, make sure that you set up a bedtime
“plan”. This begins from the time that you tell your child it
is almost bedtime. Consistency is the key. Make sure you set up
a plan that is reasonable in time (not too long so as to get
the child overtired and not too short that the child doesn’t
get to adjust from playtime to bedtime).
The following is the plan that we still use with our 4-year-old
daughter (and our 2-year- old daughter) that works very
well:
Announce that it is bedtime.
Diapers changed/pajamas put on.
Brush teeth.
Go into child’s room (make sure before bedtime all necessary
blankets, books, etc. are in the room).
Sit down and read two books (let the child pick which two
books).
Turn on white noise sound maker.
Turn off light.
Sing two songs.
Lay the child in bed, tell the child good night and leave the
room immediately, closing the door behind.
This plan might not work for everyone, but it has consistently
performed well for my wife and me. The key is consistency in
the routine. Doing the same thing every night and at
approximately the same time will allow bedtime to become
another habit that the child will be comfortable with.
About the Author
Ryan Sorensen is the father of two girls Madeline and Lily
and works during the day as a Controller in Detroit. He is also
co-owner of Jolie's Boutique, an upscale e-boutique for hip
moms and cool babes. Click here: http://www.joliesonline.com
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